- the benefits of becoming 'a regular
- you shouldn't need google maps when in your home city/town. here's how to do that
- my parents always had food in the fridge, but mine is always empty. am i doing something wrong?
@paranoid related to the last - how do I food in general
- wtf are taxes
- even if it's not a checkbook anymore, you still need to keep some sort of eye on your expenses
- what do I do in the evening besides Netflix and mastodon
- knife sharpening
Knife sharpening! I just learned that. Do worth it and I was always worried I'd "mess up my knife" the lesson learned is you're not going to make a dull knife MORE shitty. You're already at rock bottle, only place to go is up
@paranoid and it doesn't have to be fancy! Just how to use a steel. If folks are interested in hone stones, there's a wealth of info online.
Another addition - why do a lot of people have little squeegees in the shower?
And - simple tips to make dish washing less onerous.
@paranoid what are the benefits of becoming a regular?
@communeva there are many and it really depends on the place (a regular at a cafe, bookstore, music venue, park, etc)
sometimes it is material (i get my first coffee free), but the most important thing is all of the other regulars and staff become "familiar strangers", which is the first step in making new friends, helps you begin to feel at home in a place, and decreases the atomization/loneliness/isolation/etc that seems to be designed into (at least in the U.S.) cities
@paranoid that's true! I will consider that in the future.
@communeva @paranoid One way to speed up becoming a regular: ask service staff how THEY'RE doing and listen. This is such a small thing, but it's shockingly rare. Showing someone that you see their humanity encourages them to see yours and that's sort of the center of being a regular: You and the other people there see each other as full people.
So true, but don't force it. If they say "good" and give you a please-go-away look, then maybe they are busy/tired/sick/etc
It will be obvious when they want to get into a real convo (ok, maybe neurotypically obvious(dunno if that's how to say what I mean)
I would need to figure out more concrete social cues for people who have a harder time with that stuff before I was comfortable recommending it)
My heuristic is that if they give a brief or canned response, that's fine and you should move on and order. If you see them a few times and do this, maybe their behavior will change.
Also, you can sometimes cue people that you'd be open to hearing a deeper answer to the question by going beyond "fine" or whatever when they ask (and waitstaff in particular almost always ask, IME). Don't go into detail, but maybe, "Been a long day, but it's winding down," or something.
@paranoid the empty fridge!! 🤣
- getting places when you can't drive: people did it for thousands of years, you can too
- yes you can cook for yourself and no it doesn't take any significant amount of time or skill
- fuck gyms, here's some exercises you can do at home away from judging eyes
- no one really knows what flirting is but here's some things that definitely arent
@Dayglochainsaw "no one really knows what flirting is but here's some things that definitely arent"
YES! so good
a private mastadon instance to experiment with